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Break Through Discover You

Did you make a decision that you did not want to? Growing people do that everyday. The hard part is that the human brain is wired for growth. We all have a point in life that we need to break up with comfort in order to break to the next level. Here’s where I started:

Hi, Share-Rel Christina here serving the space of personal development and I help believers reach higher vibes for personal success. This is through thinking positive. Since before the age of 8, I asked questions about the meaning of life. My favorite books in school were Ramona Quimby, Nancy Drew and Charolette’s Web. Through these favorites I was seeking the meaning of life. As a child, I always wondered how the adult process worked. Growing up in my environment, I remember hearing adults say that I would understand when I got older. I just wondered how that worked, was it magical, can I start now?

I always found myself looking for that magic within. Why did I have to wait? I always wondered that it was there now and did adults have to choose it or did it just happen? Here are things I learned on the Break Through Journey.

1. Breakup & Breakthrough.

After assuming responsibility to breakup with prior habits, you do it over and over again until a sense of peace come over your fears. The more you keep going, the more confident you become and start recognizing that you alone are enough to make this change.

2. Shift Consistently.

When taking action against something that has been holding you back for a while, you are starting a rhythm to understand the inner pain you felt for a long time. Constant movement in action eases the pains in your heart. If you keep going, you can channel your pain into creating something positive for your life and help others in the process. This is called transmutation.

3. Keep Going.

Consistent actions will help you to put your pain in proper perspective. If you keep moving forward, you will one day find that the pain was actually designed to help you grow and to see a bigger purpose that will be used as a guide to manage your future views.

4. Grow.

Working through your pain or change, your views grow, your perspectives widens and your decisions starts to line up with your goals. Your maturity level increases and the way you start to look at life develops in mental healthy ways.

5. Have a Better Tomorrow.

Things and people may not change. But when you continue to grow you will be able to accept things that you have no control over and not the worry about your expectations. Being able to accept things in a different way will set up a better tomorrow and for a better you.

Once you prove to yourself that a new life is possible, it is hard to go back to the mistaken beliefs about yourself. Your beliefs about the future and what is possible will be so greater. You will find yourself wanting to explore parts of yourself you never knew were there and things start to make sense about how you got on the path. Keep moving forward until prove this to yourself.

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How to Find Self-Love

Finding self-love is the same as finding yourself—it’s a journey of unlearning, discovering, and embracing who you truly are.

Challenging Your Programming

From childhood, we are shaped by external influences—society, culture, family, and expectations. But true self-love requires questioning these influences and deciding which beliefs truly serve you. Create an environment that aligns with your values, even if it means standing apart from the crowd. Let go of the need for external validation and embrace a cause or purpose greater than yourself. Self-love begins when you start dismantling the old programming and allow your authentic self to emerge.

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Addressing the Ego: Breaking the Shell

Your ego is like a shell—it protects the identity you’ve built based on societal roles, achievements, and external validation. Whether it’s your job title, financial status, or the labels you’ve adopted, your ego clings to an idea of who you are rather than allowing you to simply be. But for self-love to truly take root, the ego must be confronted. The more you break away from ego-driven identity, the more you uncover your true self. Once the ego is in check, you won’t need to prove your worth—your existence alone will be enough.

The Self-Love Process

Self-love doesn’t happen overnight—it’s an intentional practice. Some key steps include:
✔ Tuning in to your inner voice
✔ Seeking direct experiences rather than external validation
✔ Surrounding yourself with content and people that promote growth
✔ Practicing daily gratitude
✔ Challenging old belief systems and replacing them with empowering ones
✔ Letting go of outdated narratives that no longer serve you

“With constant repetition and reinforcement, new habits are easily formed.” – Marshall Sylver

Starting Shadow Work

The “shadow self” is the part of you that holds onto unresolved emotions, fears, and insecurities—the parts you may try to ignore. However, suppressing these aspects only allows them to control you from the background. True healing begins when you acknowledge your shadow self, accept it with compassion, and integrate it into your journey.

Shadow work is about recognizing the subconscious beliefs that shape your reality. Many of these beliefs were formed in childhood and continue to influence your thoughts today. By addressing them, you regain control over your mind and emotions. Your inner child is still within you, waiting to be heard, nurtured, and reassured.

Overcoming Challenges to Self-Love

Self-love is about embracing all parts of yourself, not just the easy or socially acceptable ones. It’s a lifelong process, and it begins with gratitude for who you are, as you are. If you struggle with gratitude, it may be a sign that your ego is still in control—self-love cannot flourish where selfishness or self-judgment exist.

Becoming Self-Love

Loving yourself means paying attention to your needs, your emotions, and your growth. Shadow work is a gateway to self-transcendence, unlocking your full potential and aligning yourself with the law of attraction. Your subconscious mind plays a huge role in shaping your reality—learning to reprogram it is key to manifesting the life you desire.

Persistent Pursuit of Self-Love

Self-love is a continuous process of choosing yourself, raising your vibration, and following your dreams regardless of obstacles. The law of attraction teaches that like attracts like—when you fully love and believe in yourself, you align with experiences, people, and opportunities that reflect that love back to you.

“The mind has a powerful way of attracting things that are in harmony with it, good and bad.” – Idowu Koyenikan

Your journey to self-love is unique, but it starts with one decision: to believe you are worthy. Once you do, everything else begins to fall into place.

Creating Boundaries when there were none in the first place.

Creating healthy boundaries in life starts with healthy boundaries within self. Generally, how you treat yourself is how you treat others. How you treat strangers and those not in your social group, somehow, speaks volumes on how well you respect the self.

Boundaries on too much personal information if you are unclear of your standing and relationship with the other person. Giving too much information to a person that is not seeking to understand you can leave you feeling empty.
Boundaries on compromising your values to be accepted by others. If someone does not like you or care for you, compromising for them will send the message that you do not value yourself.
Boundaries on sharing information in appropriate ways: do not over share and do not under share. Not to say be very protective of personal information: Ask yourself what are your goals of sharing, where is this going and if you are getting the understanding that you need before sharing information.
Talk to people that you trust, build trust with people. Share a little and see where it goes. Give people reasons to trust you. Build trust based on the level of the relationship. Don’t share special thoughts with someone that you don’t have a special bond with.
Communicate your wants and your needs. Do not be dependent on the opinions of others, form your own and think for yourself.
Be able to accept the word, “NO.” Do not keep others at a distance due to fear of rejection and do not comply with others due to fear of rejection.
Respect the boundaries of others. Do not enforce your needs on others.

Having healthy boundaries promotes a life that you value. It sets you up to understand yourself and others. It’s also something you have to implement in your life everyday. Having healthy boundaries is a sign that you have a healthy life balance.

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Why Boundaries Are Important

Maybe you are new to setting boundaries and are starting to set them when you recognize a problem. Perhaps, you are the one who learned to set boundaries up front. Setting boundaries is a form a growth and once you realize that the boundaries that you set are a reflection of your self worth, they become more important and your value to yourself is important.

You will find that setting boundaries after recognizing a problem can be more problematic for the relationships that you kept without the proper boundaries. It is a way that you value yourself enough to tolerate or not tolerate what does not work for you. Protecting your energy, mental and physical space are crucial to how you show up in the world. In order to be your true authentic self, you need to set boundaries in your life especially in those areas.

Energy, mental and physical space.

You need boundaries around your energy in order to have the fuel to keep you going. You need boundaries on your mental or emotional health to keep your mind clear and focused to make the impact that you need to make in order to have fulfillment in your day and your life. Finally, you need boundaries on your physical health to manage it all because health is wealth and your body is the vehicle which will drive you to show up and make the difference that you want to make.

Here are 5 STAR Points to setting healthy boundaries.

1. Know your core values

Your core values are what drives you to make the decisions that you do, choose the relationships that you choose and why you don’t tolerate what you don’t tolerate all falls under the core values.

2. Protect your time. The one gift that runs out, use it wisely, share your time with your core values otherwise say, NO and your life will change for the better.

3. Eats superfoods like blackberries, spinach leaves, salmon, sweet potatoes and green tea. Superfoods produce positive energy in your body, makes you feel healthier, lighter and happier all promotes you having a positive energy day.

4. Get up early and say positive things to yourself in the mornings. “ I get to make a impact on the world today, “ I am needed, I am loved, I am enough….” and your mind and body will believe it, you will feel like this world needs you and you will do more.

5. Thank yourself for not being perfect because if you were perfect you would not have learned from all of your mistakes, you would not have stories to others and you would not be able to proud of who you have become. Please, I need your support. Give me a follow share-rel christina on fb, subscribe to YouTube @share- rel christina.