A toxic person with neurotic patterns (Narcissists) exhibit conditioned behavior rooted in emotional instability, insecurity, and dysfunctional interpersonal patterns. Here are 10 neurotic behaviors commonly found in narcissists.
Create Confusion
They tell half stories or bring up irrelevant information to throw you off.
Setting you up to Fail
They move the goal post once you accomplish something or ignore your achievements and compliment someone to your face.
Disregarding Your Needs
They withhold emotional support and leave you distorted about if your needs are valid.
Demanding Perfection
They set standards impossible for you to reach. They always find someone who did it better, even a random person they don’t know.
Minimizing
When confronted, they pass their bad behavior off as meaningless action or words.
Testing Boundaries
They see what you let slide little by little.
Baiting
They provoke you into a conflict.
Competitive One- Upping
They always have one factor that you didn’t experience so you can’t relate.
Sabatoging Success
They discourage you from opportunity, if you progress they create chaos.
Forced Isolation
They sabotage and cut you off from your relationships with your family, friends, their family and friends while making you feel like it was your decision.
These behaviors reflect underlying emotional instability, insecurity and unresolved personal issues. When interacting with someone exhibiting these patterns you are being manipulated and you must regain control of your mind.
Did you make a decision that you did not want to? Growing people do that everyday. The hard part is that the human brain is wired for growth. We all have a point in life that we need to break up with comfort in order to break to the next level. Here’s where I started:
Hi, Share-Rel Christina here serving the space of personal development and I help believers reach higher vibes for personal success. This is through thinking positive. Since before the age of 8, I asked questions about the meaning of life. My favorite books in school were Ramona Quimby, Nancy Drew and Charolette’s Web. Through these favorites I was seeking the meaning of life. As a child, I always wondered how the adult process worked. Growing up in my environment, I remember hearing adults say that I would understand when I got older. I just wondered how that worked, was it magical, can I start now?
I always found myself looking for that magic within. Why did I have to wait? I always wondered that it was there now and did adults have to choose it or did it just happen? Here are things I learned on the Break Through Journey.
1. Breakup & Breakthrough.
After assuming responsibility to breakup with prior habits, you do it over and over again until a sense of peace come over your fears. The more you keep going, the more confident you become and start recognizing that you alone are enough to make this change.
2. Shift Consistently.
When taking action against something that has been holding you back for a while, you are starting a rhythm to understand the inner pain you felt for a long time. Constant movement in action eases the pains in your heart. If you keep going, you can channel your pain into creating something positive for your life and help others in the process. This is called transmutation.
3. Keep Going.
Consistent actions will help you to put your pain in proper perspective. If you keep moving forward, you will one day find that the pain was actually designed to help you grow and to see a bigger purpose that will be used as a guide to manage your future views.
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4. Grow.
Working through your pain or change, your views grow, your perspectives widens and your decisions starts to line up with your goals. Your maturity level increases and the way you start to look at life develops in mental healthy ways.
5. Have a Better Tomorrow.
Things and people may not change. But when you continue to grow you will be able to accept things that you have no control over and not the worry about your expectations. Being able to accept things in a different way will set up a better tomorrow and for a better you.
Gratitude
Once you prove to yourself that a new life is possible, it is hard to go back to the mistaken beliefs about yourself. Your beliefs about the future and what is possible will be so greater. You will find yourself wanting to explore parts of yourself you never knew were there and things start to make sense about how you got on the path. Keep moving forward until prove this to yourself.
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Finding self-love is the same as finding yourself—it’s a journey of unlearning, discovering, and embracing who you truly are.
Challenging Your Programming
From childhood, we are shaped by external influences—society, culture, family, and expectations. But true self-love requires questioning these influences and deciding which beliefs truly serve you. Create an environment that aligns with your values, even if it means standing apart from the crowd. Let go of the need for external validation and embrace a cause or purpose greater than yourself. Self-love begins when you start dismantling the old programming and allow your authentic self to emerge.
Your ego is like a shell—it protects the identity you’ve built based on societal roles, achievements, and external validation. Whether it’s your job title, financial status, or the labels you’ve adopted, your ego clings to an idea of who you are rather than allowing you to simply be. But for self-love to truly take root, the ego must be confronted. The more you break away from ego-driven identity, the more you uncover your true self. Once the ego is in check, you won’t need to prove your worth—your existence alone will be enough.
The Self-Love Process
Self-love doesn’t happen overnight—it’s an intentional practice. Some key steps include: ✔ Tuning in to your inner voice ✔ Seeking direct experiences rather than external validation ✔ Surrounding yourself with content and people that promote growth ✔ Practicing daily gratitude ✔ Challenging old belief systems and replacing them with empowering ones ✔ Letting go of outdated narratives that no longer serve you
“With constant repetition and reinforcement, new habits are easily formed.” – Marshall Sylver
Starting Shadow Work
The “shadow self” is the part of you that holds onto unresolved emotions, fears, and insecurities—the parts you may try to ignore. However, suppressing these aspects only allows them to control you from the background. True healing begins when you acknowledge your shadow self, accept it with compassion, and integrate it into your journey.
Shadow work is about recognizing the subconscious beliefs that shape your reality. Many of these beliefs were formed in childhood and continue to influence your thoughts today. By addressing them, you regain control over your mind and emotions. Your inner child is still within you, waiting to be heard, nurtured, and reassured.
Overcoming Challenges to Self-Love
Self-love is about embracing all parts of yourself, not just the easy or socially acceptable ones. It’s a lifelong process, and it begins with gratitude for who you are, as you are. If you struggle with gratitude, it may be a sign that your ego is still in control—self-love cannot flourish where selfishness or self-judgment exist.
Becoming Self-Love
Loving yourself means paying attention to your needs, your emotions, and your growth. Shadow work is a gateway to self-transcendence, unlocking your full potential and aligning yourself with the law of attraction. Your subconscious mind plays a huge role in shaping your reality—learning to reprogram it is key to manifesting the life you desire.
Persistent Pursuit of Self-Love
Self-love is a continuous process of choosing yourself, raising your vibration, and following your dreams regardless of obstacles. The law of attraction teaches that like attracts like—when you fully love and believe in yourself, you align with experiences, people, and opportunities that reflect that love back to you.
“The mind has a powerful way of attracting things that are in harmony with it, good and bad.” – Idowu Koyenikan
Your journey to self-love is unique, but it starts with one decision: to believe you are worthy. Once you do, everything else begins to fall into place.
Creating healthy boundaries in life starts with healthy boundaries within self. Generally, how you treat yourself is how you treat others. How you treat strangers and those not in your social group, somehow, speaks volumes on how well you respect the self.
Boundaries on too much personal information if you are unclear of your standing and relationship with the other person. Giving too much information to a person that is not seeking to understand you can leave you feeling empty.
Boundaries on compromising your values to be accepted by others. If someone does not like you or care for you, compromising for them will send the message that you do not value yourself.
Boundaries on sharing information in appropriate ways: do not over share and do not under share. Not to say be very protective of personal information: Ask yourself what are your goals of sharing, where is this going and if you are getting the understanding that you need before sharing information.
Talk to people that you trust, build trust with people. Share a little and see where it goes. Give people reasons to trust you. Build trust based on the level of the relationship. Don’t share special thoughts with someone that you don’t have a special bond with.
Communicate your wants and your needs. Do not be dependent on the opinions of others, form your own and think for yourself.
Be able to accept the word, “NO.” Do not keep others at a distance due to fear of rejection and do not comply with others due to fear of rejection.
Respect the boundaries of others. Do not enforce your needs on others.
Having healthy boundaries promotes a life that you value. It sets you up to understand yourself and others. It’s also something you have to implement in your life everyday. Having healthy boundaries is a sign that you have a healthy life balance.
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